Reconnect, Rebuild, and Move Forward
Coaching individuals and couples to reconnect, rebuild, and move forward toward a better tomorrow.
The Solutions Approach: How It Works
Discover Hidden Possibilities
Identify Clear Goals
We define exactly what a successful relationship means to you, establishing clear, realistic solutions that you feel excited to achieve.
Construct Actionable Steps
Every single session ends with a personalized and concrete plan to implement in your daily routine immediately.
Is This Right For You?
Solutions Approach Traditional Model
Relationship & Solutions Coaching
Focuses heavily on the present and future
Emphasizes building immediate skills and solutions
Driven by actionable steps
Focuses on discovering what can go right
Traditional Couples Counseling
Focuses heavily on past trauma and history
Emphasizes analyzing the root causes of problems
Can feel repetitive or slow-moving
Focuses on what went wrong
Meet Your Coach
Brian Milliken, LPCC, LMFT
I have spent 30 years helping couples shift from repetitive arguments and "roommate" dynamics into forward-focused, thriving partnerships.
Operating an online coaching practice nationwide, I help couples move toward their preferred future through a structured, nonjudgmental, action-oriented approach. Rather than spending months rehashing past trauma or assigning blame, I use The Solutions Approach—a framework I developed by integrating systems theory with evidence-informed strategies such as the Gottman Method—to provide practical tools that help repair trust, interrupt destructive patterns, and create communication breakthroughs.
What People Are Saying...
We were caught in a cycle of blaming each other for years of little hurts. Brian changed our entire view. Instead of dissecting past fights, we looked at what our ideal daily life looked like and the small steps to get there. “The first week we saw a shift in the way we communicated."
I was skeptical because I didn't want to spend months rehashing old arguments. The sessions were exactly what we needed. They were practical, positive, and future-focused. We learned to spot the moments where we were connecting well and multiply them. It saved our marriage.
After having kids, we felt like roommates who just managed a household. During the sessions we uncovered the skills we already had as a couple but had forgotten about. The scaling questions and small weekly experiments made reconnection feel achievable rather than overwhelming. We feel like a team again.
I felt totally lost going through a major life transition. Brian introduced me to the concept of liminal time, that unsettling space of change. But training myself to see this awkward transition as a natural part of growth rather than a failure changed my whole perspective. Those insights helped me find peace during a very uncertain time.
Single Coaching Session
One 50-minute focused virtual session Immediate, actionable adjustments Ideal for targeted solution-building
Practical tools to improve communication right away A short, personalized plan for what to practice after the session
$200.00
3‑Session Momentum Package
Three 50-minute focused virtual sessions Complete relationship dynamic mapping Tools to break repetitive conflict loops Ideal for establishing baseline communication breakthroughs
$500.00
6-Session Relationship Reset Package
Six 50-minute focused virtual coaching sessions Complete relationship dynamic mapping Targeted tools to reset conflict cycles Guided support for breaking cycles & building new habits
$1000.00
Frequently Asked Questions
Find answers about my coaching approach
How do you work with clients?
I deliberately limit my practice to a select number of clients to be fully present and engaged in each case.
Collaborative Approach: In session, we will work collaboratively to explore the many possibilities that may work for your situation. Depending on your desires, we may explore different angles, build solutions, or develop awareness of the larger systems and circumstances surrounding the issue, yet with a focus on moving forward with actionable steps toward a better future.
What to Expect Based on Session Type:
Couples and Family Sessions: In sessions, I do not take sides. The entire unit is my client with an orientation of adjusting relational dynamics and improving situations, moving toward building a better connection between you and your loved one.
Individual Sessions: We will look at what you are hoping to get from the experience and collaboratively discover what will work for your situation, while moving toward a more preferred future.
My orientation includes considering our relationships to life. We will take into account relational factors, which may include environments, people, culture, expectations and roles. The process may assist you in gaining a deeper understanding of your values and skills, leading toward transformative change.
What's the difference between coaching and therapy?
In the state of New Mexico, I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor. For nationawide clients (outside of New Mexico), I offer relationship coaching, if you qualify (for those who do not require clinical mental health treatment).
As a relationship coach, I am here to assist you in moving forward and navigating challenges with tools and strategies that are practical and action-oriented.
If I find that you need mental health support, I will provide a clinical hand-off to a licensed therapist in your area.
If you have any questions about the distinction between therapy and coaching, I’m always happy to clarify further.
How do virtual sessions work?
You will be given a Zoom link when you receive your reminder email for the consultation. Additional participants attending on a separate device will also be given a Zoom link.
How do I pay for sessions?
You will be prompted to make payment when scheduling through our scheduling system. It will accept Visa, Mastercard, Discover Card, American Express, and debit cards.
Is my information confidential?
Yes. In coaching, like in therapy, everything you say to me stays between us. Please note that since we are focusing on designing a healthy partnership, I practice a "No-Secrets" policy. If you share information with me individually that directly impacts the well-being or future of your relationship, I will not hold that secret from your partner. I will work with you to find a way to bring it to the table together.
My commitment to your privacy is absolute, with the standard exceptions required by law and professional ethics: I will not disclose or use confidential information without the client's express written consent, except when disclosure is required by applicable law, pursuant to a valid court order or subpoena, or when I reasonably believe disclosure is necessary to help prevent imminent serious harm to the client or another person.